Singles In The City: Derek Ahkoi

Name

Derek Ahkoi

Age

30

Location
Indianapolis, In.

By way of the East Bay Area California

By way of Oahu Hawaii

Occupation
none lol: jack of many trades and master of a few

I’ll say I have not been employed by someone else in a few years.  But am keen on making money.  Some of my friends call me an unemployed baller… I just say I know how to manage money!

Religion
Christian!!!!

Tell us a little about yourself.
Beyond popular belief no I am not black, no I am not white, I’m not Mexican, I’m not Puerto Rican, not Asian.  HAWAIIAN! Ya, I don’t know any other Hawaiians in Indianapolis either. 

What’s your personal sense of style?
ummmm… I’d have to say I keep it up scale.  I’m not one for labels or brands (except when it comes to watches).  If I like it, I will wear it… it will fit me and will not be hanging off of me.  I will rock from Rock and Republic to Three Piece Suits, v-neck or ascot! But you will never see me in coogi. 

I do believe the watch sets it all off… sure you can get some nice jeans and a nice shirt… your shoe game has to match and the overlooked part is watch… and it doesn’t have to be large and or gaudy, but classy n match the color scheme and the genre of the outfit.

What do you do for fun?
Relax!!! Because I don’t get to do it often.  But I like poetry spots, jazz music, that type of relax atmosphere.  I work in the nightlife so the clubs are not  generally my first attraction. 

Do have or want children?
I do not have any children of my own.  I am still in the life of my ex’s daughter who I consider my own.

I want children of my own.  At least a daughter and definitely a son!  Idealistically I would like 4 children but not absolutely set on it.

Would you date a woman with children?
I would date a woman with children if she had interest in more.

What do you look for in a woman?

One that doesn’t ask me “ooh, what is you!”

My intent is to eventually become a Pastor, so the first thing that I look for in a woman is that she has a relationship with God.  She has to be cultured and outgoing, intelligent and able to hold intelligent conversations.  She has to be comfortable in her own skin.  It is an absolute turn off if a female is not confident in herself and needs someone else to feel important, or complete.  I would like to meet a female that would enjoy going to a movie as well as a musical, a basketball game and a play, and has a desire to work in ministry.

I wont go into anything physical… I do have physical standards, but I do believe that it is a bit vain to mention them because at times they can be compromised.  I know that if you want a relationship to last you have to build it upon things that last.  Looks, appearances, and physic always change.  Character, integrity, intelligence, and confidence are stronger foundations to build a relationship upon.

What does it take to make and keep you happy?
that is a loaded question!  Satisfying those things that I look for in a woman would make and keep me happy.  Continuing to grow in those areas and maintaining a desire to grow in those areas would keep me happy.

What are your feelings on marriage? Are you ready to settle down and get married?
I can go on for days about marriage!!! I actually am writing 2 books on marriage now.  I have the book marks out for them already.  They are 10 Commandments To A Godly Husband and 10 Commandments To A Godly Wife. 

To keep it short I will say, I believe God is the author of the institution of Marriage and has a lot to say about it in scripture.  I believe that he designed marriage and I believe that design is well laid out and will attempt to follow that design. 

God designed man to be the head and holds him responsible for being the priest, provider, and protector of his family.  It is not to be misunderstood that the man is then the dictator to his wife for scripture explains that the man is to be the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.  Christ never demanded but served and gave his life for the church.  So marriage is a committed relationship between a man and a woman where the man devotes his life to the wellbeing of his wife, and the wife out of gratitude returns the action.

My belief is that marriage should be one and done!  I will do everything in my power to choose the right mate and everything in my strength to maintain the marriage.  Am I ready for marriage?  I am ready to find a woman who I can potentially marry!

Tell me something about yourself that I haven’t asked but may be important?
I’ve been a dj for over 15 years, worked in audio engineering for the same amount of time.  Worked for major and independent record labels since 16 and taught myself piano around that time as well.  Music is relaxing to me, well real music that exemplifies creativity.

I serve in the audio/video department and youth department at my church and have been faithful there for 6 years now.  I graduate with my Pastoral Theology Degree this may!!!

How can people contact you? Are you on facebook or twitter?

Facebook: Derek Ahkoi

Twitter: @DerekDkoi